Journaling Prompts
For the Girl Who Is Figuring Herself Out
A space to think about who you are, what makes you different, what you’re still learning about yourself, and how you want to move through the world. These prompts invite you to explore your identity without needing to have everything figured out.
What is something about you that people tend to misunderstand?
Which parts of your personality feel easiest to show at school? Which parts come out more around people you trust?
What is something you like about yourself that you don't talk about very often?
What is something about yourself that feels different, new, or unclear to you right now?
Think about the last time someone made an assumption about you. What did they get wrong?
What is something about growing up in today’s world that you wish the adults in your life could see from your perspective?
When do you feel most comfortable being weird, loud, quiet, silly, serious, or completely yourself?
What is something you want to try without worrying about whether you'll be good at it?
What parts of yourself feel like they are growing or changing right now?
If nobody could rate, comment on, compare, or judge your choices for one day, what would you do differently?
For the Things You Don’t Have Words For Yet
Not everything is easy to explain, especially when you’re still figuring out how you feel. These prompts give you space to explore the thoughts, feelings, questions, and experiences that may be difficult to put into words right now. You don’t need to have the right answer—or even know exactly what you’re feeling—to begin.
Is there something you've been feeling lately that you can't quite explain? What do you notice about it?
What is something you wish you could explain to someone, but you don't know where to start?
Have you ever felt like something was bothering you before you knew what it was? What was happening around you at the time?
What is something you’ve been thinking about a lot lately? Why do you think it keeps coming back to you?
Is there something you wish you could say to someone but haven't? What makes it hard to say?
What is something that has changed for you recently—at school, at home, with friends, or within yourself? How does the change feel?
Think about a moment when you knew something didn't feel right, even if you couldn't explain why. What did you notice?
What is something you wish someone would ask you about?
Is there a feeling you keep pushing aside, avoiding, or telling yourself isn't a big deal? What might happen if you gave yourself permission to pay attention to it?
If you could write a letter about something you're going through without anyone knowing it was yours, what would you want to say?
What is something you wish people understood about you without you having to explain it?
Finish this sentence: “I don't know exactly how to say this, but…”
The People in Your Life
The people around us can shape how we see ourselves, what we believe we deserve, and how comfortable we feel being ourselves. These prompts invite you to think about friendship, belonging, boundaries, conflict, and the relationships that make you feel more like yourself.
Who are the people you feel most like yourself around? What is it about those relationships that makes that possible?
What makes someone a good friend to you?
How do you know when someone actually respects you?
Have you ever stayed in a friendship because you were afraid of what would happen if you left? What kept you there?
What is something you wish you could say to a friend but haven't?
Think about a time you felt left out, misunderstood, or like you had to change yourself to fit in. What did you learn from that experience?
What are you not willing to compromise on within your friendships/relationships?
How do you usually respond when someone you care about hurts your feelings?
What does an apology need to sound like—or look like—for you to believe it?
Have you ever confused being wanted with being valued? What is the difference?
What do you want the people closest to you to know about how you like to be supported?
What would a friendship feel like if you never had to compete for your place in it?